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With much frustration I am writing this post to share. Why? I think in some weird way I hope it shows someone that they aren’t the only ones going to stressful times in dealing with custody battles. I believe I have shared this few times now, that I have been in a custody battle for “officially” two years now. I say “officially” because I went out and found a lawyer to help me with this battle. It’s actually been a uphill battle for almost 10+ years. Sure there have been a few good times, where everything was going smoothly. But those were quick to vanish in time.

We were to have our trial on the 26th of May… Not so much… The day right before, we got the call that it was pushed back due to a criminal trial. This has happen to us twice before and not to mention all the problems Covid caused and other the other party moving out of state. We were able to have a settlement hearing in hopes of coming to some type of agreement. What is the saying? Wish in one hand and crap in the other. See which one fills up first. I mean the fact most of us didn’t have much faith in this hearing. But I had a “small” hope that maybe, maybe she might see the problems.

With out going into much detail. The settlement hearing was a waste of time and the judge called. Turns out the other party has their significant other in the same room as them(they video call into the courts). When it was only for Lawyers and the two parties involved. Because of this the judge could not take her answers as truthful. Also the fact that we were on two different sides as far as parenting plans go. Fact of the matter is, we have offered a number of plans and she as rejected all of them. Even the Oregon standard long distance parenting plan. No changes, plan as is… But she rejected it.. Had she taken that deal, she would have had the kids this summer and possibly Christmas. But that is not the case now and we have moved on to what is best for the kids and not the adult.

Fact that the families for both sides are in Oregon, their friends as in Oregon. They have a stable foundation that was built in Oregon and to up root them to a state they never been before. Where they know no one and have zero family out here, not to mention the problem with the stepparent. But that is a headache of a story for another time…..

So after the settlement hearing was ended, the lawyer and myself talked about our next course of action. We were able to get a new trial date that wasn’t to far away and more confident that it will actually go through. Everyone wants this done with… It’s hard to deal with this and also plan a wedding at the same time. The trial is always in the back of my mind and is the cause of much stress. I believe this is the cause of number white hairs now haha.

So that is the current state if things, with out going into much detail. Sadly a lot of my time is devoted to this and a number of project have taken a backseat. Like my blog here. BUT!! Hopefully soon that will change and we can move on with life. Thank you for reading my drama and I am sorry for not updating as much as I normally do.

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StarDate 54783.2

*Looks blankly at the warm glow of the computer screen*

*Looks down that new Bang energy coffee drink I got the other day. Thinking about where to start this post.*

*Takes a drink of the Bang coffee drink………..*

Ugh! By Loki’s nasty swamp ass. This drink is terrible……. *Looks down at drink and walks to the sink.* What the hell? It basically feels like it covers your whole mouth in this fake milk flavor.. UGH.

*Grabs a Monster instead.*

So here I am at 7 in the morning waiting for my oldest to finish getting ready for school… It’s been a SLOW going so far haha. But to be fair, she has been able to sleep in most of the school year. Their school schedule was rather consistent there for a bit. Then they tried hybrid learning and that was made into two groups, AM and PM. Both kids got lucky and was put on the PM shift. So their school time looked like this:

Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday start at 12:35pm to 3:50pm. Wednesday at home starting at 8:45am to 3:00pm….

Now they just changed it again and it’s starting today. So now they want “full” school days, Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday at 8:15am to 2:30pm. Again Wednesdays at home starting at 8:45am to 3:00am. Wednesdays are serving as a free day to work on their assignments from home and check in on ZOOM. While the school is cleaning everything.. Personally I think they should have just left the whole thing alone at this point. You only have a couple of months left of this school year till summer. I would have spent this time to plan for in person school for next year. But the kids are doing rather well with the changes, as annoying as they are. But having me here with them all the time and making sure they are getting their work done. As much as I might annoy them, it’s working out for them. After talking with some of the teachers, guess a lot of parents aren’t fully involved. Complain about everything and not willing to help with this process.

I think in one of my other posts I talked about my custody trial. We are still waiting on that sadly. We did have some long conversations about the kids and their feelings towards their mother. My youngest doesn’t want to talk with her anymore and hasn’t in over a month now. My oldest is now in the same boat.. It is a sad thing really. But hopefully things will work out by the time the end of May comes. Till then, we will maintain the course we are on.

On a more chipper news! Everything is coming together for the wedding in August. We got our arch in from over seas and our drinking horns finally came! We also got our custom guest signing “book” is you will. The theme for the wedding is vary heavy in the Lord of the Rings/Middle Earth, with some Scottish Highlands mixed in. We also had our first photo shoot before the wedding and we are still waiting for those to come in. I do have some pictures of some of the items, I’ll have to share those in another post.

Other than that, things are rather relaxed for the first time in a long time. Also started playing World of Warcraft again and might dragged my wife to be and her sister into the world as well hahaha. I don’t feel bad about that.

I do have some cyberpunk topics come up. Just a lot of reading as of late, because most of the cyberpunk stories are in book/comic form. Not that I’m complaining, I love reading..

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Captain’s log… There really hasn’t been anything action packed as of late. Mostly getting everything ordered for the wedding and/or put together. I think there are only a few things left to do on the list. Music being one and the other is finding someone to officiate the wedding hahaha, that one is rather important.

Other than that, the kids are starting in-person learning again and that in itself has surprising challenges. Working around the house and lord help me I’ve started playing World of Warcraft again. I’ve even pulled my wife to be along for the ride haha.

Nothing new sadly in the way of trial/custody progress. We are currently set for next month and just playing the waiting game at this moment.

We start up our garden this week. Once everything is in place, I’ll have to share the progress with that too. Hahahaha like I said, things have been rather lackluster around here. I’ll have a few Cyberpunk posts coming up and I have been talking with local comic con & other events. But those are closer to fall/winter and I think we’ll see those this year. I fear they will be pushed back out again. The rate Oregon is going with Covid…

ANY-WHO!! Hope everything is doing well and being safe out there.