After 10 years, I feel Vindicated

“When the going gets tough, put one foot in front of the other and just keep going. Don’t give up.”

― Roy T. Bennett

This is the first time I have ever publicly talked about these events that happened to me. I believe I’ve only told a small handful of people who I trusted at the time about this. Sadly I can’t say the same about the other party involved in this matter.

10 years…. One whole decade of my life.. I’ve been keeping this inside and afraid to share with everyone. Afraid that no one would believe me, no matter how much evidence I have to show. Being told by people that they believe the other person. Not even bothering to ask for my side or look at my evidence. To be judged by people you loved and or thought of as friends, just kick you to the curb and abandoned. Is a feeling I will attempt to explain over this post and hope no one has to ever go through this.

It feels like I’ve been fighting for something my entire life. My kids, honor, dignity, my job/career, love…. But the events that took place in 2013 really damaged my armor(my heart and trust). Between 2011 and 2012 I was in the beginning stages of what is to be the many custody battles.

So over the year of 2013 we had a parenting time in place and we’re following it to a degree. But we were still going back and forth on the custody issues. It wasn’t till November and December of 2013, that all changed. I still remember it like it was yesterday… It was like any other day, got the kids ready for school and dropped them off. Just got home and started getting ready for work. There was a knock at the door and there was an officer holding some paperwork. This paperwork should have been a bomb really, because I had nothing left once I found out what it was about.

I was inform that there are charged brought up against me, stating that I used my child information to make an account for cable/internet provider in our area. At a complete shock and lack of words. The officer said, “Judging by your response you don’t know anything about this?” I said no and head started racing, as was my heart. I didn’t know what to say or do, so I went with him to answer questions. So while sitting there I had a different officer come in and start berating me with questions after question. It felt like I only had seconds to answer them.

So information about this started at the end of October of 2013. I was talking with my Dad over the phone one day and he told me that he had noticed that my child’s name would come up on the caller ID. I thought that to be rather odd and called the cable and internet provider about this. They did say that both my name and child’s name was on the same account. I told them that should not be the case and that my kid’s name was a password for the account. But in order to fix this issues I would have to go down to the main offices and bring proof of ID and fix the account. So I did, I brought my information and what information I had for my child. I didn’t think much of it and trusted the company enough that they would do their job.

That was my first mistake…. So once everything was fix and all the information was corrected, I went back home.. Nothing more was said or done about it, until the end of November when I was serviced paperwork. So here I am, being questioned about everything from home life to work and money. While trying to explain everything to this officer and told him I have my files at home and I can show him. Repeating that it was a mistake and that my child’s name was to be a password. That is when the officer brought up my ex-wife and custody battles we were going through. That he was more inclined to believe her over my statement. It was at this point I knew I was S.O.L. … It didn’t matter what I said or did, it was going to fall on deaf ears. My ex had put things into motion that were now out of my control.

Because of this the custody shifted to my ex and I had nothing. Went from having 70 to 80% of the time, to ZERO. Just in time for the holidays… Once I got home I had a message from my employer (who was also my ex’s family. At the time we were still on good terms when we got a divorce.) saying given the nature of everything, they were letting me go. I tried again to explain everything, but that door was now closed. Friends that I’ve known for years stopped talking with me. I even got a number of phone calls stating on what a “piece of shit” I was and thought I should die. I became blacklisted from everyone. I had no one to talk to or ask for help. I didn’t know what to do.

So now we are in what everyone thought was going to a big trail and I was going to jail. I was a pointed a lawyer, because I had no money for a lawyer. We spent a week going over everything I had and all the information that was given to us my the other party. That is when I found out that I was going up against a new DA, that was trying to make a name for himself. His plan was to make an example of me and so on…. I was told I was going to get at least 10 year in jail or 3 years. So after talking with my lawyer he felt confident I wouldn’t get any jail time and that I should be able to talk away from all this. I believed him… That was my second mistake…

While my lawyer was correct about not getting jail time. I did not walk away from this as easy as he made it sound. The trial itself only took a few hours.. I was met with the same type of response from the Judge and DA. The “I’m going to take the word of you ex over what you say”, and that was frustrating beyond belief. After we turned over our evidence and me standing in font of the courts making my statement. The DA made his closing statement and basically calling everything a joke and that I manipulated everything. Luckily the Judge did not see it that way. But he still felt to teach me a lesson evidently and gave me 5 day of work crew and that there was a mark on my background now. because he felt I handle the personal information incorrectly and that I needed to do a better job as a parent. That was a kick to the gut…. But the Judge did state that I can challenge the judgement later if I wish to. Both my lawyer and myself wanted to challenge the charges and the judge gave us a date and time of when to file for the motion to challenge his ruling.

As my lawyer and myself were leaving, I did see my ex there talking with the DA. Neither one looked happy. But the damage was done. Because of this I lost any chance to having custody of my kids, the way I did before. I’m out of the job and lost most, if not all my friends at the time. No one would listen me. So I did what I thought was best, go dark. Trying to be there for my kids in anyway possible. Trying find whatever job I can to make ends meet. When the time came for us to challenge the ruling, my lawyer told he file the paperwork and everything should work out fine. Just make sure to pay whatever court fees there were.. Again I believed him… That was my third mistake..

Going into 2014, 15, 16 I had weekends with my kids and a holiday here and there. But I still had problems with everyone. I never talked about it because I was embarrassed and dealing with trust issues. Because I didn’t know who my ex talked to, I knew that there was rumors flying about. But I tried to move on with what life I could. Sadly it took the death of my father to slap me awake. While I would admit I haven’t fully dealt with the passing of my father. It did help me move on from the events of 2013 and light a fire inside. In wanting to fight for my kids and so begins the custody battles, again.

2017 and 2018 had a hard start, but I didn’t give up. The courts even told me that I should be happy with what I have. But I wasn’t going to get anything better or that Oregon is a pro mother state and I have no chance of get any form of custody. Keep in mind these are staff of the court house telling me this. In 2019 a number of events took place between my ex and myself, I hired a lawyer and went for full custody of my children. In 2021 after a long hard fought battle and dealing with COVID issues. I now have custody of my children and because of this long legal battle. A lot of things have come to light for a lot of people. I found some old friend given their apologies and even some family members.

I have to say this. I do not blame them for their feelings at the time of all this. I am grateful that people are finally seeing the truth and that I/we can finally start to move on from all this.

But having said that, the reason why I bring this up now. Is because at work I was told that they found something on my background and it might cause problems with my employment there. In shock and confusion I asked what it was. They could not tell me and that I would have to get a hold the background company. Deeply annoyed I got what information I could. Because I’ve had other background checks before and had no problems what so ever. So after talking with the company, I went down to the local court house and to see if there was anything on my background.

Remember when I told you my lawyer back 2013 filed the paperwork for the challenge of judgement? Yeah.. He never did that… After he told he did, I never heard anything else afterwards and went on with my life. NOPE!! The judgement was still there and there was no records of any forms turned to challenge it. From there I asked what I can do myself to get the ball rolling on this matter, because my job now depends on it. So I spent all day at the court house, filling out everything possible. Even hand delivered the files to the DA’s office and mail out orders to the Portland offices. That was two months of hell right there.

Calling everyday, emailing everyone I can to make things go faster. I even had my current lawyer offer to write a letter on my behalf to help keep my job. Even the DA had offer to write a letter to explain the process and help keep my job. But I had to wait for system to do what the system does.

But the vary same Judge that worked my custody case looked over my file and removed everything from it. Followed with a statement saying that this should have never happened in the first place and issues an apology on behalf of the courts. That the evidence is rather clear and there was no wrong doing.

I can’t tell you the feeling I have right now… The weight and depression that came with all this is gone. Having a legal documents to validate everything I’ve been trying to tell everyone is the great feeling in the world. My father always told me to fight what I believe in, fight for your love ones and fight for what makes you happy. To never take no for an answer. He was right and I am glad he was able to give me that nugget of wisdom before he passed. My only regret is that he isn’t here to see all this.

I am truly happy in my life now. I have two great kids, a beautiful, loving & caring wife(even with her terrible pun/dad jokes), and a good job.. I couldn’t ask for more, I have friends and family all around and things are looking good. It feels good to finally talk about this, to put 10 years of fighting to a end. I don’t know what the future has for myself. But I know I am ready for it and I can’t wait to met it head on.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I had to get this off my chest.

“If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world.”

Thorin Oakenshield

-Jason Roberts

Story Time: An Old Letter Found

So earlier today I was getting ready to work in the yard. Went to grab my hat that was on the bookshelve. I knocked over the family Bible that was given to me by my Dad. A little history about this book first… I am not a vary religious person, but one of the main reasons why I keep this Bible around is the family history and the memories that are inside these pages. The Bible itself dates back to 1939 and was a gift to my Grandpa Roberts from his father, my Great Grandfather.

The information that my Grandpa kept in here was amazing. There is family history dating back to August 22nd 1840. What I have in my hands is over a hundred and eighty years of Roberts, Elliott, Murphy family history in this book.


I have dates from when people were born and died. There is even marriages and divorce dates. To my amazement there is even SSNs.. The last entry was my date of birth and some of my events that happen when I was a child.


But back to the story of me knocking over a 180 year time bomb earlier today. When the book hit the ground, I quickly picked it up to make sure everything was okay. Then this folded piece of paper fell out of it. It was hidden behind the binding that the Bible was placed around it. Setting the book aside, I very so gently unfolded the paper. It almost feels like it’s going to turn to ash, it’s so old. I see writing and realize it was my Grandmother’s handwriting. There was two pages. One was a love poem and prayer for my Grandpa. The second was a letter explaining the poem and prayer.


Given the events and time line this letter was written. This was during World War 2, while my Grandpa was over in Europe. This letter was to give him comfort and to remind him of home. Grandma’s hope was that he would look at this letter and remember their love for each other, and the life they have together. To remember what is waiting for him when he returns. My Grandpa had this Bible with him every Sunday or around his person at all times.

I remember him always writing in it and reading. Never fully understanding what he was writing in it. But I did know it was important. It wasn’t till my Dad showed me this family Bible we both realized the importance of this book for our family. Now the book has been past down to me and I have been trying everything to restore and save the stories/paperwork. A lot of it is so old, it’s just falling apart. I had to share this with someone, I thought it was rather cool to get a glimpse of my Grandparents personal life.

Story Time: My Grandpa’s Habits

October is one of my favorite months, not just because my birthday happens to fall on the 21st. But it’s when the seasons starts to change and Halloween of course. But in recent years there has been an element of sadness that occurs. The 23rd of October happens to be my Father’s birthday and with his passing, it really hasn’t been the same. With our birthdays always a day apart we always picked the 22nd to have a big party. But now I have this mixed emotion of happiness and sadness of remember of once was. That is also why way I have haven’t been on here for a few days/week. Just needed some family time and some time to take my mind of this (didn’t work haha).

But that not way I wanted to share this “Story Time” with you. My Grandfather always had a habit or routine and did not deviate from these at all. The saying, “can’t teach an old dog new tricks” comes in to mind with him hahaha. I’ve learned so much from that man, I wouldn’t want to change him anyways. Between my Grandfather and my Father, I become a jack of all trades and for that I am grateful.

But there is one habit that my Grandfather always did and it drove my Grandmother NUTS! He would always have a kleenex on him. Always in his pocket, used or unused haha. Sadly my Father and myself picked up this habit as well HAHAHA and I now know why it drove my Grandma nuts. You forget about them and when you go to wash your cloths, they fall apart. Get into everything, specially once you get into the dryer.

At some point after my Grandfather’s passing in January 13, 2001. My Father and his sisters was going through his stuff, I was traveling from Oregon to Ventura, California to be with the family. But unknown to me, my Father found one the fabled snot rags in one of his vest pockets. Now you fast forward February 27, 2016, sadly this would be the day my Father would die. Once again I find myself traveling from Oregon to California to be with family and help with funeral. When it became time to go through my Father’s things… I have to stop right here and explain that my Father or I should say the Roberts family has a weird sense of humor or an idea of what is important to keep as to remember someone. My Father was the worst one out of all of use. That man never through anything away, specially when it came to family items. For that I am beyond grateful, because I’ve spent a number of year building the family history.

Okay back to the story! While I was going through my Father’s things, I came across an envelope with his writing on it.

If you can’t read it, it says,”My Dad’s last paper towel, he would always hang on to one of these things. I found this in his vest pocket. I can’t bring myself to put it in the trash… Sorry. -Woody”

My Father left me so many little note through out his stuff, explaining why he did things. Or what to do with them once he passed, or even how to take care of some items. Now you fast forward to now October 27, 2020 and I still have this envelope. It is now two decades old… I have this two decades old snot rag that I can’t throw away. Why? Because it reminds me of my Grandfather and my Father’s weird sense of what is important. So now I am making a shadow box with all the little things like this. I’m thinking about calling it The Weird Odysseys of the Roberts Family. HAHAHAHA good lord, TWO DECADES, count them! 20 years of holding a family heirloom of snot.. I bet this we a sick joke to see if I would keep it. That seems like something my Father would do.

Books, Books and More Books

So we started moving everything around this week. Kids are getting their room to the way they want them. We got new blinds up, and they ac installed, built a new bookshelf. Built a desk, cat tree and the living room is a mess hahaha. Hopefully everything will be done by the weekend. I’m starting to rethink in the amount of books I have.. Maybe a donation time?

This is part one of the books. I have maybe 4 more parts of books.

Distance learning Is Over.. For now..?

So the other day my little ones finally finished school. With COVID-19 going on, the way of life has changed in number of ways. It started with the with the kids with no school and “Distance Learning” was put into place.  With that going on, I had to make a learning plan for both of my kids that would equal their grade level of education. Plus at the time maintain my normal work schedule. But that was about to change as well, because the following month I was out of work do to COVID-19(I’m a Sous Chef and restaurants took the hardest hit) . Now with the added stress of financial adulting to recover the lost income.

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The up side was, I was able to put all my focus on the kids and their learning plans. It was till after the second week, the public school system finally sent out work books for both kids and was able to work with the teachers for daily assignments. While my youngest was easier to set up, because he only had one teacher. My oldest proved to be a little more difficult at first, do to having multiple teachers and subjects. But once we got Google classroom set up for both kids and they were to video chat with their teachers, things became easier. After 3 months of hard work and we finally made to the end of the school year. I am happy to say that Jackson is now moving to the 6th and Lilly is now moving to the 8th grade!!

I really didn’t see the school year or normal everyday life to be like this. Even tho the kids made it the finish line, there seems to be an element of sadness. Not being with their friends and/or classmates at this time. The kids having to maintain friendships have changed as well. As some parents don’t want others to come or they don’t want to travel. Plus not having some parks or shops closed because of COVID-19 as really put a handicap on their normal life. While things are starting to SLOWLY re-open. It’s interesting to me to see how they have managed to keep their friendships going.  My oldest does a lot of face-time with her friends. They read and act things out, they do art project with each other. Even make video edits back and forth. My youngest has done the same thing as well. Being able to link his face-time and play video games or talk about movies.

When the need to get away from technology we started up a garden in the backyard and they both have a plant that they need to take care of. We managed to go to the beach not that long ago and it was fun to watch them go nuts and run from one place to another lol. But school is now currently done! The following school year is unknown if  it will start off with “Distance Learning ” and then go into normal classroom/school environment. Or start up as normal, the email that was sent from the local school system here, said they did not know at this time. Not till August they will know more and inform everyone. Till then we can relax and enjoy what we can. We do have some family events coming up and some small BBQ, it’ll be interesting to see what happens with 4th of July or other holidays.

But they did it! They finished school and I couldn’t be more happy for them. Some much hard work and personal development over these few months. I think they are amazing, well I am their Father. I think that regardless hahaha.

It’s Family

Spent most of my day doing family history. Just finished going through at least 3 generations of photography. End game is to get them into organized photo albums.

What Was Once Thought Lost

So I have written about this a few times now. About the autographs that my father gave me of the cast of Star Trek. How Shatner’s and Nimoy went missing or worst yet, STOLEN .. I even meet William Shatner and told him the whole story about it. Shanter even talked with my Father over the phone about it hahaha.

A Small Conversation With William Shatner & Bob Camp At Wizard World

Remembering Leonard Nimoy

Star Trek Book Challenge

I know there are a few more post that I have written. But for the life of me, I can not find them haha. Anyways, as I finish up moving. I found a little piece of blueish green paper stuck to the bottom of a old cigar box… Could it be?!? I disbelieve I handed the paper over to my girlfriend to make sure. It was William Shatner autograph!! So I now have my Father’s original autograph, plus mine.

Sadly I am still missing Nimoy and the pictures.. But I fear it maybe to late for his autograph. Unless I pay an ungodly amount of money.. Worst part is the missing pictures, they are family memories. Why would anyone take those? But this is a rather small happy ending, bittersweet if you will.

Nerdy Shenanigans & Other Life Updates

So this year as been rather busy for myself and for all the good reasons. So later this week I’ll been moving in with my girlfriend or at least starting to move stuff. Plus we’ve been trying to have our anniversary trip now for better part of a month now. Kept having to changed the date do to work and or moving. But I think we finally locked a date in haha.

Also while all this is going on, I’ve gotten back into podcasting. The New Geek Fallout and a new podcast called The Pop Culture Hindsight. I’m rather looking forward to this podcast, mostly do to the fact it’s with Chris Lockhart. Plus Lots of Wizard World stories and other media coverage. I’ve also start something new called The Daily Nerdy Life, it’s a news web page that pulls and shares other blogs, posts, etc. from all over. Something to help new bloggers and old. It has everything from comics, movies and video games. As well as all things pop culture.

In addition to all this, I am also working on a new blog call ASTRO BLog GO!! The main focus of this blog is cartoons and artwork of all kinds, and also share my artwork. Which is something I haven’t done in a long, long time. Just something different from Nerdy Life Of Mine and fun. So yeah.. LOTS of new events going on and can’t wait to share it with you all.

Twitter: @iRoberts3

Instagram: @nerdylifeofmine

P.S. I’m also writing my book in between all this, it’s based around my life and all the fun/weird things that have happened to me. I’ll release more information about it as time goes on.

5 Books That Every Parent Should Read with Their Kids

Star Trek and Star Wars Book Challenges are fascinating dive into some of our favorite universes, but just because you’re busy reading them doesn’t mean you can’t also enjoy sharing some (hopefully nerdy) reading time with your family. Reading with your child is one of the most important things you can do as a parent to promote literacy, cultivate a love of learning, and nurture bonding. Here are five tried and true books aimed at a wide range of age levels that are exceptional choices for parent-child read-aloud:

WHERE THE SIDEWALK ENDS BY SHEL SILVERSTEIN: This traditional collection of children’s poems is the ideal book to introduce children to the beautiful world of poetry. By combining profound stories with fanciful characters and humor, Silverstein has created a beloved masterpiece partnered with imaginative illustrations.

HARRY POTTER BY (Series) J.K. ROWLING: This venerable series of fantasy novels is a favorite with kids and adults alike, making it the perfect choice for a parent-child read-aloud. Although the books can look daunting at first glance, try not to let the high word count deter you. The entire series has won critical acclaim and garnered much commercial success by combining the fantasy world of witchcraft with a myriad of vulnerable coming of age themes.

WONDER BY R.J. PALACIO: Although not as high as the Harry Potter word count, Wonder still provides a challenging read for tween kids. This award-winning children’s novel follows the story of the precocious Auggie Pullman, a fifth-grade boy living with a disfigured face. Up until this school year, Auggie had been homeschooled due to his medical condition and the hardships it causes him. The heartwarming book centers around Auggie’s launch into a mainstream school and how he deals with the emotional and social stresses that come along with this transition.

READY PLAYER ONE BY ERNEST CLINE: This book has been hailed as a nerdy favorite, so if you want to share some of your nerdy childhood with your kids, then you should definitely take a look at “Ready Player One”. Set in 2044, this young adult novel will unite both kids and their parents as they explore a fantastical world together. “Ready Player One” appeals to science fiction fans as well as gamers and those just looking for a fast-paced adventure. This is an ideal book for the teenage age group.

CHARLOTTE’S WEB BY E.B. WHITE: This classic children’s novel has stood the test of time, as evidenced by its legions of fans from all generations. The beloved book uses a simple story in a farm setting to explore themes of death, innocence, and coming of age.

And additionally, though this might take some work, you can take it up a notch and write your own stories for your children. This is a great creative exercise and a great opportunity to see what you find valuable for children to learn. Just make sure to keep the word count reasonable for their age, which varies quite a bit. If your kid is around 8-10 years old, you can count that a story from 20,000 to 25,000 words. Be sure to use a word counter as you finish chapter after chapter, and have some friends ready for feedback.

An alternative to this, if both you and your child are particularly patient and creative, is to both work together to write a story (illustration books can be really fun with this ideas). This can be highly imaginative exercise for both you and your child.

All five of these books will spark your child’s imagination and provide the opportunity for you to bond with your child in both an educational and nurturing manner.

References:

http://www.writing-world.com/children/backes1.shtml

https://wordcounter.io

https://www.book2mykids.com/b2mk/Default.aspx?appname=Store&tabname=Home&

https://takelessons.com/blog/creative-writing-books-for-kids