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Well I started writing and got side tracked with Road House…. ANYWHO!! So now that is over. I finally had some time to sit down and do a massive clean out on the blog and update all the links. Even updated a few aspects of the site was well.

I’ve been remodeling my site to be a one stop shop for all things. My goal is not to be on social media as much. Rather use my blog/site to update everything. I mean there are some I have to check every so often, but places like Facebook, Twitter not so much. I can easily govern them through my site. I also plan on being more active on the podcast network I’m apart of. Specially now I have a normal job with normal business hours, I can actually do things!! Who knew!! I addition to the number of updates, I made a donation page to help out with future & current projects and podcasts. Plus with every donation made, a percentage with be donated to a charity that help fight against climate change.

At some point I plain on making store front for custom work and stickers/shirts. The money made off that will be turned towards the site and my fellow podcasts, for better equipment and servers/storage. Even looking into starting our old YouTube channel again. Nerdy Life of Mine as been a labor of love for over 10 years… That is rather crazy to think about. So things are happening and I for one am rather excited on how things are going.

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After 10 years, I feel Vindicated

“When the going gets tough, put one foot in front of the other and just keep going. Don’t give up.”

― Roy T. Bennett

This is the first time I have ever publicly talked about these events that happened to me. I believe I’ve only told a small handful of people who I trusted at the time about this. Sadly I can’t say the same about the other party involved in this matter.

10 years…. One whole decade of my life.. I’ve been keeping this inside and afraid to share with everyone. Afraid that no one would believe me, no matter how much evidence I have to show. Being told by people that they believe the other person. Not even bothering to ask for my side or look at my evidence. To be judged by people you loved and or thought of as friends, just kick you to the curb and abandoned. Is a feeling I will attempt to explain over this post and hope no one has to ever go through this.

It feels like I’ve been fighting for something my entire life. My kids, honor, dignity, my job/career, love…. But the events that took place in 2013 really damaged my armor(my heart and trust). Between 2011 and 2012 I was in the beginning stages of what is to be the many custody battles.

So over the year of 2013 we had a parenting time in place and we’re following it to a degree. But we were still going back and forth on the custody issues. It wasn’t till November and December of 2013, that all changed. I still remember it like it was yesterday… It was like any other day, got the kids ready for school and dropped them off. Just got home and started getting ready for work. There was a knock at the door and there was an officer holding some paperwork. This paperwork should have been a bomb really, because I had nothing left once I found out what it was about.

I was inform that there are charged brought up against me, stating that I used my child information to make an account for cable/internet provider in our area. At a complete shock and lack of words. The officer said, “Judging by your response you don’t know anything about this?” I said no and head started racing, as was my heart. I didn’t know what to say or do, so I went with him to answer questions. So while sitting there I had a different officer come in and start berating me with questions after question. It felt like I only had seconds to answer them.

So information about this started at the end of October of 2013. I was talking with my Dad over the phone one day and he told me that he had noticed that my child’s name would come up on the caller ID. I thought that to be rather odd and called the cable and internet provider about this. They did say that both my name and child’s name was on the same account. I told them that should not be the case and that my kid’s name was a password for the account. But in order to fix this issues I would have to go down to the main offices and bring proof of ID and fix the account. So I did, I brought my information and what information I had for my child. I didn’t think much of it and trusted the company enough that they would do their job.

That was my first mistake…. So once everything was fix and all the information was corrected, I went back home.. Nothing more was said or done about it, until the end of November when I was serviced paperwork. So here I am, being questioned about everything from home life to work and money. While trying to explain everything to this officer and told him I have my files at home and I can show him. Repeating that it was a mistake and that my child’s name was to be a password. That is when the officer brought up my ex-wife and custody battles we were going through. That he was more inclined to believe her over my statement. It was at this point I knew I was S.O.L. … It didn’t matter what I said or did, it was going to fall on deaf ears. My ex had put things into motion that were now out of my control.

Because of this the custody shifted to my ex and I had nothing. Went from having 70 to 80% of the time, to ZERO. Just in time for the holidays… Once I got home I had a message from my employer (who was also my ex’s family. At the time we were still on good terms when we got a divorce.) saying given the nature of everything, they were letting me go. I tried again to explain everything, but that door was now closed. Friends that I’ve known for years stopped talking with me. I even got a number of phone calls stating on what a “piece of shit” I was and thought I should die. I became blacklisted from everyone. I had no one to talk to or ask for help. I didn’t know what to do.

So now we are in what everyone thought was going to a big trail and I was going to jail. I was a pointed a lawyer, because I had no money for a lawyer. We spent a week going over everything I had and all the information that was given to us my the other party. That is when I found out that I was going up against a new DA, that was trying to make a name for himself. His plan was to make an example of me and so on…. I was told I was going to get at least 10 year in jail or 3 years. So after talking with my lawyer he felt confident I wouldn’t get any jail time and that I should be able to talk away from all this. I believed him… That was my second mistake…

While my lawyer was correct about not getting jail time. I did not walk away from this as easy as he made it sound. The trial itself only took a few hours.. I was met with the same type of response from the Judge and DA. The “I’m going to take the word of you ex over what you say”, and that was frustrating beyond belief. After we turned over our evidence and me standing in font of the courts making my statement. The DA made his closing statement and basically calling everything a joke and that I manipulated everything. Luckily the Judge did not see it that way. But he still felt to teach me a lesson evidently and gave me 5 day of work crew and that there was a mark on my background now. because he felt I handle the personal information incorrectly and that I needed to do a better job as a parent. That was a kick to the gut…. But the Judge did state that I can challenge the judgement later if I wish to. Both my lawyer and myself wanted to challenge the charges and the judge gave us a date and time of when to file for the motion to challenge his ruling.

As my lawyer and myself were leaving, I did see my ex there talking with the DA. Neither one looked happy. But the damage was done. Because of this I lost any chance to having custody of my kids, the way I did before. I’m out of the job and lost most, if not all my friends at the time. No one would listen me. So I did what I thought was best, go dark. Trying to be there for my kids in anyway possible. Trying find whatever job I can to make ends meet. When the time came for us to challenge the ruling, my lawyer told he file the paperwork and everything should work out fine. Just make sure to pay whatever court fees there were.. Again I believed him… That was my third mistake..

Going into 2014, 15, 16 I had weekends with my kids and a holiday here and there. But I still had problems with everyone. I never talked about it because I was embarrassed and dealing with trust issues. Because I didn’t know who my ex talked to, I knew that there was rumors flying about. But I tried to move on with what life I could. Sadly it took the death of my father to slap me awake. While I would admit I haven’t fully dealt with the passing of my father. It did help me move on from the events of 2013 and light a fire inside. In wanting to fight for my kids and so begins the custody battles, again.

2017 and 2018 had a hard start, but I didn’t give up. The courts even told me that I should be happy with what I have. But I wasn’t going to get anything better or that Oregon is a pro mother state and I have no chance of get any form of custody. Keep in mind these are staff of the court house telling me this. In 2019 a number of events took place between my ex and myself, I hired a lawyer and went for full custody of my children. In 2021 after a long hard fought battle and dealing with COVID issues. I now have custody of my children and because of this long legal battle. A lot of things have come to light for a lot of people. I found some old friend given their apologies and even some family members.

I have to say this. I do not blame them for their feelings at the time of all this. I am grateful that people are finally seeing the truth and that I/we can finally start to move on from all this.

But having said that, the reason why I bring this up now. Is because at work I was told that they found something on my background and it might cause problems with my employment there. In shock and confusion I asked what it was. They could not tell me and that I would have to get a hold the background company. Deeply annoyed I got what information I could. Because I’ve had other background checks before and had no problems what so ever. So after talking with the company, I went down to the local court house and to see if there was anything on my background.

Remember when I told you my lawyer back 2013 filed the paperwork for the challenge of judgement? Yeah.. He never did that… After he told he did, I never heard anything else afterwards and went on with my life. NOPE!! The judgement was still there and there was no records of any forms turned to challenge it. From there I asked what I can do myself to get the ball rolling on this matter, because my job now depends on it. So I spent all day at the court house, filling out everything possible. Even hand delivered the files to the DA’s office and mail out orders to the Portland offices. That was two months of hell right there.

Calling everyday, emailing everyone I can to make things go faster. I even had my current lawyer offer to write a letter on my behalf to help keep my job. Even the DA had offer to write a letter to explain the process and help keep my job. But I had to wait for system to do what the system does.

But the vary same Judge that worked my custody case looked over my file and removed everything from it. Followed with a statement saying that this should have never happened in the first place and issues an apology on behalf of the courts. That the evidence is rather clear and there was no wrong doing.

I can’t tell you the feeling I have right now… The weight and depression that came with all this is gone. Having a legal documents to validate everything I’ve been trying to tell everyone is the great feeling in the world. My father always told me to fight what I believe in, fight for your love ones and fight for what makes you happy. To never take no for an answer. He was right and I am glad he was able to give me that nugget of wisdom before he passed. My only regret is that he isn’t here to see all this.

I am truly happy in my life now. I have two great kids, a beautiful, loving & caring wife(even with her terrible pun/dad jokes), and a good job.. I couldn’t ask for more, I have friends and family all around and things are looking good. It feels good to finally talk about this, to put 10 years of fighting to a end. I don’t know what the future has for myself. But I know I am ready for it and I can’t wait to met it head on.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I had to get this off my chest.

“If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world.”

Thorin Oakenshield

-Jason Roberts

December From Hell

Where to begin… If you follow me on any social media, then you know that my accounts were hacked. While I did get control back to must of them and/or stop them before they could take them over. But I did lose control over my Instagram account and you are seeing messages or new post on there. !!! THAT IS NOT ME !!! I have filled a number of reports with Facebook and Instagram… I have to say that their system is beyond messed up if you need help right away. All this started on the 9th and with my email. They hacked both my business and person email, that is how they were able to get into my social media. As creepy as it sounds I was actually able to watch them move around my information and know where they were going.

I was able to get them out of email and lock them out. Same thing for my Twitter, Facebook and YouTube. Sadly I was not able to get my Instagram back. They changed my user name and phone number, as well as my email to that account. It’s been an embarrassing and frustrating event. I’m still working on the cause of this attack and I’m able 90% sure where it started. I did however find away to get the process going with Instagram to get my account back, after 3 days of talking with random people and filling out forms. Also while all this is going on, my family and I got covid……… Yeah… Also to add some sprinkles to overly done crap cake. I been having some issues with my children’s mother. They went to see for a week for the first time in almost two years. It did not go so well sadly.

So my hope is that they rest of the month will smooth out and get back to normal.

Plus I wanted to let everyone know who follows me on Instagram. If you got a message from me, that is not me. I do not have control of this account at the moment. The handle was NerdyViking42, but they changed it to _nerdyviking42_….. Yeah, lacking originality there.

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So it’s been a hot minute since I last made a personal update. * Looks through history* Damn okay, so May was the last time I made a personal update. A lot has changed between then and now. Thankfully most of it was great changes/events. First one I would to bring up is about my custody battle. I know I’ve spoken about this at a number of times over the years. The stress and frustration it has cause my family as finally come to an end. In July we finally had our trial!! Shockingly it went easier than I thought. At the 11th hour before the trial, my lawyer called me stating that my ex wanted to make an offer. This offer came to us not long after we released our findings and witness list, as well evidence for my case. See before we didn’t get a chance to release our records due to the case being pushed back so many times. So once the other party finally got see what we have, the story quickly changed.

While we are still waiting to get the official signed documents fro the court house, I am happy to say that I now have full sole custody of my kids!!! While this is an awesome win for my family, it does have some smaller battles that will continue till the kids are of age. Their mother does have a parenting time plan for out of state. But their mother yet again moved to another state, only after she told the courts that her address at the time was a permanent. This is a on going pattern and would mark the 15th move she has made in the last 3 years. Plus she doesn’t want to pay child support and want me to pay for their trips out there. Or at least half of it… Yeah, that’s a hard no.. So like I said, there are a few smaller battles going on. But the most important one is finished and won. I have custody of my children!! After years of being told “no” or “be thankful for what I have.”, even was told that one point no man in the state of Oregon would have true custody. It was because of these comments I made it my mission to show that this wrong and fight the system. All these years of keeping records and being patient paid off.

August was another big month for us. Lilly got to have her birthday with friends and family. My girlfriend and I got married!! So much craziness leading up the wedding day. The food prep, making all the decorations and everything else that goes with a wedding. But it was awesome to see things come together. I was beyond happy to have most of my family there and friends. Even with Covid, we were still able to get people together. Plus it helped that everything was outdoors haha. We are currently waiting on pictures, there is something like over 400+ photos. So once we get all those I’ve have to share some with you. But we do have a few to show you.

And yes the wedding theme was HEAVY in the Lord of the Rings, Celtic and Scottish traditions. Also I forgot to bring up, I got a new job before the wedding. So it has been a rather eventful few months. Right now we are just trying to enjoy our time and move through life as normal as possible. As normal as we can get with Covid limitations.

I do have a few projects coming up centered around comic books, and DIY cosplay. The cosplay was a quest line that my son started for Halloween. I’ve shared a few pictures on my Instagram, but I’ll make sure to share the project in more depth on here. One of the other project is help my brother with his PR and website building. He is running for office in southern Oregon, so this had been an interesting experience.

Story Time: A Broken Wing

This is a cautionary tale of a young boy who, despite all warnings went up against a fabled beast. The beast was a filled with hot air and it’s scales are a made from a mixture of nylon & ployester oxford. This tale begins on a warm sunny Saturday and everyone was getting ready for a birthday festivity. The day started off normal and relaxed, unaware of the battle to come.

So we all went to a family’s house for a birthday party and they rented out a bouncy house for the kids (and adults lets be honest hahaha). Everything was going rather well and everyone was having fun. Lots of food, drinks and the kids we’re all playing the bouncy house. We then opened gifts for the birthday boy, followed with cake as you do. Then everyone went back to playing.

While we putting some of the larger gifts together and talking. I was told that my son had hurt himself… Looking ahead, I can see that he was cry and his arm was just hanging down to his side. Thinking he might have dislocated it or messed up some of his muscles. After getting him to stop crying long enough to tell me what had happened. We put some ice on his shoulder where he said it hurt and he was fully able to tell us what he did.

It seems that at some point of playing around. He thought it would be a good idea to do a front flip from the bouncy house opening to the slide that was build on. Not being able to stick the landing the way he wanted too. He did land on his arm and bend it backwards… After he was able to move, we took him the the local ER to see if there was more damage than we were seeing.

I believe we were at the ER for almost 3 hours. They did some x-rays and found that he did brake his arm and pulled a few muscles. They gave him a shot small of morphine to help with his pain and put a splint/sling on him. He did have nurse that was hilarious and had a number of dad jokes/dark jokes. Which is right up my son alley, Odin knows that kids loves his bad jokes hahaha. I have to say that kid on morphine is something to see hahaha. He did not stop talking and so, SO MANY JOKES. I wish I got it on video, just to focused on getting everyone home.

So far he is doing better, sleeping is a bit of a challenge sometimes. So there is a lot of napping haha.

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With much frustration I am writing this post to share. Why? I think in some weird way I hope it shows someone that they aren’t the only ones going to stressful times in dealing with custody battles. I believe I have shared this few times now, that I have been in a custody battle for “officially” two years now. I say “officially” because I went out and found a lawyer to help me with this battle. It’s actually been a uphill battle for almost 10+ years. Sure there have been a few good times, where everything was going smoothly. But those were quick to vanish in time.

We were to have our trial on the 26th of May… Not so much… The day right before, we got the call that it was pushed back due to a criminal trial. This has happen to us twice before and not to mention all the problems Covid caused and other the other party moving out of state. We were able to have a settlement hearing in hopes of coming to some type of agreement. What is the saying? Wish in one hand and crap in the other. See which one fills up first. I mean the fact most of us didn’t have much faith in this hearing. But I had a “small” hope that maybe, maybe she might see the problems.

With out going into much detail. The settlement hearing was a waste of time and the judge called. Turns out the other party has their significant other in the same room as them(they video call into the courts). When it was only for Lawyers and the two parties involved. Because of this the judge could not take her answers as truthful. Also the fact that we were on two different sides as far as parenting plans go. Fact of the matter is, we have offered a number of plans and she as rejected all of them. Even the Oregon standard long distance parenting plan. No changes, plan as is… But she rejected it.. Had she taken that deal, she would have had the kids this summer and possibly Christmas. But that is not the case now and we have moved on to what is best for the kids and not the adult.

Fact that the families for both sides are in Oregon, their friends as in Oregon. They have a stable foundation that was built in Oregon and to up root them to a state they never been before. Where they know no one and have zero family out here, not to mention the problem with the stepparent. But that is a headache of a story for another time…..

So after the settlement hearing was ended, the lawyer and myself talked about our next course of action. We were able to get a new trial date that wasn’t to far away and more confident that it will actually go through. Everyone wants this done with… It’s hard to deal with this and also plan a wedding at the same time. The trial is always in the back of my mind and is the cause of much stress. I believe this is the cause of number white hairs now haha.

So that is the current state if things, with out going into much detail. Sadly a lot of my time is devoted to this and a number of project have taken a backseat. Like my blog here. BUT!! Hopefully soon that will change and we can move on with life. Thank you for reading my drama and I am sorry for not updating as much as I normally do.

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*Looks blankly at the warm glow of the computer screen*

*Looks down that new Bang energy coffee drink I got the other day. Thinking about where to start this post.*

*Takes a drink of the Bang coffee drink………..*

Ugh! By Loki’s nasty swamp ass. This drink is terrible……. *Looks down at drink and walks to the sink.* What the hell? It basically feels like it covers your whole mouth in this fake milk flavor.. UGH.

*Grabs a Monster instead.*

So here I am at 7 in the morning waiting for my oldest to finish getting ready for school… It’s been a SLOW going so far haha. But to be fair, she has been able to sleep in most of the school year. Their school schedule was rather consistent there for a bit. Then they tried hybrid learning and that was made into two groups, AM and PM. Both kids got lucky and was put on the PM shift. So their school time looked like this:

Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday start at 12:35pm to 3:50pm. Wednesday at home starting at 8:45am to 3:00pm….

Now they just changed it again and it’s starting today. So now they want “full” school days, Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday at 8:15am to 2:30pm. Again Wednesdays at home starting at 8:45am to 3:00am. Wednesdays are serving as a free day to work on their assignments from home and check in on ZOOM. While the school is cleaning everything.. Personally I think they should have just left the whole thing alone at this point. You only have a couple of months left of this school year till summer. I would have spent this time to plan for in person school for next year. But the kids are doing rather well with the changes, as annoying as they are. But having me here with them all the time and making sure they are getting their work done. As much as I might annoy them, it’s working out for them. After talking with some of the teachers, guess a lot of parents aren’t fully involved. Complain about everything and not willing to help with this process.

I think in one of my other posts I talked about my custody trial. We are still waiting on that sadly. We did have some long conversations about the kids and their feelings towards their mother. My youngest doesn’t want to talk with her anymore and hasn’t in over a month now. My oldest is now in the same boat.. It is a sad thing really. But hopefully things will work out by the time the end of May comes. Till then, we will maintain the course we are on.

On a more chipper news! Everything is coming together for the wedding in August. We got our arch in from over seas and our drinking horns finally came! We also got our custom guest signing “book” is you will. The theme for the wedding is vary heavy in the Lord of the Rings/Middle Earth, with some Scottish Highlands mixed in. We also had our first photo shoot before the wedding and we are still waiting for those to come in. I do have some pictures of some of the items, I’ll have to share those in another post.

Other than that, things are rather relaxed for the first time in a long time. Also started playing World of Warcraft again and might dragged my wife to be and her sister into the world as well hahaha. I don’t feel bad about that.

I do have some cyberpunk topics come up. Just a lot of reading as of late, because most of the cyberpunk stories are in book/comic form. Not that I’m complaining, I love reading..

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Captain’s log… There really hasn’t been anything action packed as of late. Mostly getting everything ordered for the wedding and/or put together. I think there are only a few things left to do on the list. Music being one and the other is finding someone to officiate the wedding hahaha, that one is rather important.

Other than that, the kids are starting in-person learning again and that in itself has surprising challenges. Working around the house and lord help me I’ve started playing World of Warcraft again. I’ve even pulled my wife to be along for the ride haha.

Nothing new sadly in the way of trial/custody progress. We are currently set for next month and just playing the waiting game at this moment.

We start up our garden this week. Once everything is in place, I’ll have to share the progress with that too. Hahahaha like I said, things have been rather lackluster around here. I’ll have a few Cyberpunk posts coming up and I have been talking with local comic con & other events. But those are closer to fall/winter and I think we’ll see those this year. I fear they will be pushed back out again. The rate Oregon is going with Covid…

ANY-WHO!! Hope everything is doing well and being safe out there.

Keep Rolling With The Punches

So after almost a month being away, I am slowly making my way back on to things. Sadly, a lot of events did not turn out like I had hoped or just did not happen at all. The trial that was set for the 24 of February did not happen and was pushed back to May. This was due to a criminal trial that was conflicting with our case. The frustrating part was no one was ready for it, we all knew the other trial was there. But we were told that it would be okay, but that all changed the day before the trial. The day before! Ugh, so here we are with everything out and really to go. Now we must pack everything up and wait again for May.

The history of this trial has gone on for almost two years now and all of us want to see the end of this. I know my kids want to see the end and to be able to continue moving forward with their lives. I mean this custody battle has gone on for several years. Sure, there were sometimes where things worked out and the ability to co-parent was possible. But after the some of the action of the other party, I cannot let it happen anymore. So, after getting legal help, this battle has been going on officially for two years now. Let me tell you, the stress and frustration are amazing.

At times it is like we are living two different worlds. The other party has this, we are right and everyone else has done us wrong attitude. Almost fighting with a brink wall, almost. But with both families fighting to keep the kids in the state, I am grateful for all the help and support I have received. I can safely say I would not be where I am in all of this, it was not for some key individuals. For that I would like to say thank you.

Sorry if some of this seems kind of vague, I am trying my hardest not to reveal names and certain information. Not that I am worried about hurting my case any, just do not the other parties involve to case more drama.

So here we are… Trial is now set for May, kids are still in at home learning. Hopefully, this will change by the end of the month and go into some hybrid learning plan. I am still looking around for a job. I think that was the frustrating part about all this, I finally got to a point in my job where I did not have to worry about money again. Then COVID changed all that. On top of this I have Child Support still billing, even tho the kids are in my care and have been for several years now. So, there is a balance due, and they say they cannot do anything because the case is now in trial. But that does not stop them from taking my pay, tax returns, and yes even my stimulus check. I was able to stop them from trying to take my unemployment payments. But damn… It has been a long and stressful year. I think was annoys me the most about the Child Support process, is that have issued me two refund check, all while billing me every month. The terrible part is that the check that were refunded to me, do not even make a dent into the amount they owe me. We are talking thousands of dollars here.

Right now, I am here standing around waiting for things to happen. Just trying to find another job, not to sure what I want to do. Kind of at the point where I can go into different directions, yet I cannot help this feeling of being scared/nervous. I am waiting on the trial to start and actually have ground rules in place. I find myself trying to make things feel normal for everyone at home, even tho things are far from normal haha. Thank you COVID for that. But there are several good things going on. Kids are healthy and both have 3.0+ GPA, they are about see their Grandparents and some of their friends in person. At least the ones that are within’ our inner circle. We have our monthly family get together, games and movie nights. I even finished a few art projects at need to be done in the worst way. Plus, not to mention the wedding planning going on!

So hopefully I will get back to writing on there and share my little life misadventures with you all. Even maybe get back to podcasting soon and finish with a few other projects. At any rate, thank you for being here and reading my rant about life.