“You Can’t Be a Princess” | Journalists from ABC’s “What Would You Do?” planted hidden cameras in a Halloween store and filmed shoppers’ reactions to a boy who wanted a princess costume and a girl who wanted a Spiderman costume.
“A strong man stands up for himself, but a stronger man stands up for others.”
I post this video awhile back about gay bashing. After watching the kids in the Halloween video above, it got me thinking. As a parent at first I fell into the system of Boys should play Boy toys and Girls should play with Girl toys. It was so automatic to think/act that it bother me so much. I made a change and started teaching my children on equity on every level. I want my daughter to have strong female role models, be independent and think for her self. Same thing for my son. I want him to have his heroes and strong role models, teach him how to treat people and be respectful of women. I want them to express themselves anyway they want. I’ve found my son playing with dolls from my daughter’s toy box. That is fine! He actually mixes it up with IronMan, Hulk, Optimus Prime and has them go in and save the girl hahaha. It’s cute really.. Same thing with my little girl, she plays with his superhero toys all the time. Last Christmas I went on a quest to find female superhero toys and show her that there are girl superheros! She was so excited and had no idea that there were female superheros.
I remember as a kid growing up I found myself relating to the female gender better than the guys. Oh sure I had a bunch of guy friends that was never a issues. But I found I had more female trades than the normal “John Wayne” types out there. This is something I kept to myself for years, remember things in the 80’s & 90’s were a lot different than they are now a days. I think it wasn’t till the year 2001 is were a lot things changed about myself. I wrapped myself up into the Goth culture and the arts, met new people who are like minded. I took a lot of female clothing designs and infused them with male clothing, I would put on make-up, lip stick, nail polish, etc… I felt free of judgement and didn’t have to worry about people thought, I was doing what I felt was right. I guess transgender would be the word to use here. I’m not gay really, more bisexual because I have had a few boyfriends in the past. I’ve had more girlfriends then boyfriends really, well Christ I was married at one point haha.
That also kinda brings me to another turning point in my life. Once my girlfriend (who became my wife at the time) was do with child, I felt this need to change who I was again. That “Dads” need to be a certain way or to be just a parent for that matter. Being judged by people who look at me and say,”you are having a child? You look and act like that?”,”Going to mess up or confuse the kid if you are going to be like this.”. I remember all the side remarks, never really leaves. But sadly I did want people call “manning up” and changed everything about me. I think the one saving grace was my children in the long run. They make me happy and became the air I breath, I really can’t imagine life without them now. Now I’m moving on with life and have a wonderful girlfriend who likes to nerd things up with me.
I’ve been wanted to write something like this for awhile now. A “coming out, but not coming out” speech haha. It was more or less me becoming tired of hiding on who I am and who I have become because of my life. I think this video help me come to this point to share everything to you. In this video Bunny Bennett also known as Rabbit from the band Steam Powered Giraffe, here she talks about being transgender and some of things she went through.
I believe this video explains me to a “T”… I am a little scared to post this, in fear of what other my think. Well close friends and family, I don’t think I’ve ever said anything to anyone about this. I’m 30 years old now and I think it’s time to stop hiding my past and present. SO here is goes… 3..2…1.. “Publish”