Step By Step

A couple of days ago, we just got back from California. It wasn’t a planned trip or a joyful one… We had to go down due to the passing of my father…. I’ve been wanting to write about for awhile. But we came back with more stuff than we left with.

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As you can see my desk is covered and the row of boxes in the living room. This is a mix of my Dad’s things and my Grandpa’s. I started to go through…

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Step By Step

A couple of days ago, we just got back from California. It wasn’t a planned trip or a joyful one… We had to go down due to the passing of my father…. I’ve been wanting to write about for awhile. But we came back with more stuff than we left with.

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As you can see my desk is covered and the row of boxes in the living room. This is a mix of my Dad’s things and my Grandpa’s. I started to go through some of it and found so much family history. Things I didn’t know they had. It’s hard… I miss him. Find myself wanting to call my Dad and ask questions or memories/jokes that won’t happen again. So once I’m done going through everything and able to get to my desk. I plan on writing about everything and who my father was.
Step by step.

Accident Prone Kids and “Goose Egg” on Head

Accident Prone Kids and “Goose Egg” on Head

First Aid

So the other night my little Hobbits were running around and dancing to music. For reason that still has me bewilderment, my oldest  thought it was a good idea to go under the coffee table… Yeah you can kinda see where this is going haha. So I go into my room thinking I might read or maybe get some WoW time in. Then I hear this crashing noise. Then the screaming/crying… Every parent know this…

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Accident Prone Kids and “Goose Egg” on Head

Accident Prone Kids and “Goose Egg” on Head

First Aid

So the other night my little Hobbits were running around and dancing to music. For reason that still has me bewilderment, my oldest  thought it was a good idea to go under the coffee table… Yeah you can kinda see where this is going haha. So I go into my room thinking I might read or maybe get some WoW time in. Then I hear this crashing noise. Then the screaming/crying… Every parent know this…

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Accident Prone Kids and “Goose Egg” on Head

First Aid

So the other night my little Hobbits were running around and dancing to music. For reason that still has me bewilderment, my oldest  thought it was a good idea to go under the coffee table… Yeah you can kinda see where this is going haha. So I go into my room thinking I might read or maybe get some WoW time in. Then I hear this crashing noise. Then the screaming/crying… Every parent know this sound haha. So as I go down the little hallway I have, Lilly meets me half way holding her head crying and this is what I see.

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I mean this “Goose Egg” as they call it. Was about the size of a silver dollar, maybe a little bit bigger. I felt so bad for her, still do. It has gone down some over night.. But it looks like she got into a bar fight and won HAHA!

First Aid Guide

Found this helpful site http://www.simple-remedies.com that gave a good step by step on what to do with a “Goose Egg” (listed below). Also they a lot of helpful tips on just about everything..

Facts about Toddler Goose Egg on Head

Goose eggs on the toddler’s head should not be a major source of concern.

It may appear huge but rarely has long-term effects.

Parents would be reassured to know that the child’s forehead and scalp have thick skin and tiny blood vessels, acting as cushion from the impact.

The size of the goose egg does not indicate severe damage or injury.

Check to see if the areas surrounding the goose egg are not swollen as well.

The swelling would usually subside in days or a week after the incident.

Check to see if the areas surrounding the goose egg are not swollen as well.

The swelling would usually subside in days or a week after the incident.

How to Treat a Goose Egg on Forehead

If the child suffers from headache, give acetaminophen for pain relief.

Put a stop to the bleeding by applying pressure to the cut with a clean cloth.

Place an ice pack on the goose egg immediately. It will help decrease the risk of potential swelling. Make sure to use a clean dish cloth or towel with which to wrap the ice pack.

Observe the child for imbalance, loss of memory, vomiting and severe pain, all of which are warning signs of possible head injury.

To be on the safe side, consult the doctor to rule out serious injuries.

Warning Signs of Head Injury

The problem is more than just a mere goose egg, if the following warning signals are seen:

Unconsciousness for a few minutes

Serious wound

Bleeding or discharge of clear fluid from ear, mouth or nose

Blurred speech or impaired vision

Pupils are of unequal size

Stiff neck

Seizure

What to Do During Suspected Injury

If the child is unconscious, do not attempt to move him or her in case there is fear of injured neck or spine.

During seizure, turn the child onto one side to allow vomiting, while making sure that the neck or head are straight.

If the child is conscious, keep him calm and still.

Do not clean the wound to avoid aggravating the bleeding. Just put a clean and sterile bandage over the cut.

Keeping a Child-Safe Home

To avoid goose eggs and head injuries, ensure safety precautions for children.

Childproof the home by taking out objects or furniture that may constrict their movements.

Have them wear headgear when they go biking or skating,

Use the car’s seatbelt or safety seat while traveling.

After a serious bump in the head, do not allow the child to go back to daily strenuous activities until the doctor deems it fit.

Really?

So as I was picking up my oldest from school. I found this little girl standing in the middle of the parking lot crying and lost. I guess at some point the mom picked up the little girl’s sister, packed her up in the car and drove off…. Yes.. She drove off and left this little girl there. Lucky enough we were in the school parking lot, so we went back to the main office and got her mom’s phone number.
When the mother finally showed up, she had this “whatever” attitude and didn’t say “thank you”or anything. Not even to the main office people. So she grabbed the little girl and walked outside. I then gathered up my kids and started walking out to the car. There I see the mother yelling that the little girl for getting lost.
Last I checked lady… You drove off and left her there! Didn’t have a choice in the matter. Now I’m not one to tell people how to raise their kids. But I know an idiot when I see one and I had to say something.. “Rather than yelling at your child for something she couldn’t control. Maybe you should be telling her that you love her and that your sorry. Make it up to her for YOUR mistake. Step up your game as a parent. If you can’t do that. Maybe you should take a look in the mirror and not take it out on your children for your failings.”
I’m just saying, just a thought haha. God I hate people sometimes.

Adventures in Single Parenting

Where to start…? For the past year or so I’ve been keeping a log of the day-to-day life of myself and my kids. I’ve also been keeping a medical log as well, mostly for my son seeing how he has the most of the problems. The reason for all the record keeping was caused by me and my ex-wife getting a divorce about a year ago…. As it stands I have the kids 90% of the time. She moved out.. I don’t know why I’m writing about this now. I think it was caused by reading everything that I wrote in the logs.
I know I made a post when everything went down on Facebook and I also stated that I wouldn’t talk about it again.. But there are so many things digging at me.. The drama, games, the lack of respect. Here is the post I made on Facebook:

“End of a Chapter. Starting a new one
by Jason Roberts on Sunday, July 8, 2012 at 12:16am ·

I’ve been thinking a lot about this for the past month or two now. For those who knows both me and Laurel personally, know that we have been, having a great deal of trouble in our marriage.

For the past month now we both came to the point where things are just not working out anymore. We have parted ways and moved on to other things.

We are both working together to make sure the kids are happy in all this and that there is NO bad blood between us both. I know it’s never easy and also sad. But in the long run it’s for the best I think. We are just on to different levels and have different ideas for what we want out of life.

Now this is something that just didn’t happen over night. No this has been going on from Oct. 2011 to now. We’ve try to work things out. But it wasn’t till these last 2 months is where we both realized that things were just never going to be the same or get better. Again there is no bad blood, no “he said, she said.” going on. We are both living our lives and making sure that the kids are happy , health, and that they have everything they need in life. After all.. That is what is important, the kids.

It feels nice to talk about this finally. We’ve been keeping a lot of this under raps for so long, worry on what people may think. Are we going to lose friends? Lose family? Be everyone seems to be working with us to make sure everyone is happy and working together.

We both are see other people and living our lives the way we see fit. No more, no less. This is the last and only time I will ever write about this. The fact is that this is a personal matter. But all of our friends are on here and this is just an easier way to inform everyone that needs to know.”

The truth of the matter is I tried to make it work.. THREE times I’ve tried to make things work out. Whats odd is, I’ve always said if someone cheated on me I was out. Gone.. But for some reason that just eludes me to why I tried to make things work. Maybe it was for the kids? I don’t know….. As time goes on my attention is on the kids. They have become my life and I will do anything for them. I want them to be happy and health. I’m just tired of  walking on egg shells so to speak.

I’m the one doing everything for them. School, meetings with teachers, Doctor appointments, helping with homework. I make sure they have clean cloths and 3 meals a day. Oh sure she takes them every so often. For the past month it’s been Tuesdays and Saturdays only for a few hours. But there have been a few times where I get a text or phone call stating that she is “tired” or not “feeling good” OR my favorite is ” can you come and get them? They won’t listen to anything I say.”

I’m sorry… But that’s not how this works. You’re the parent, the Mother… I just don’t get it really, it’s like they come off as a chore. Also what kills me is when I get texts late at night asking if I’m unhappy having the kids all the time? Followed up with a lame attempted of saying sorry for making a mess of my life.

No… I’m done being nice, I tired of the games and drama. Tired of waiting for someone’s mind to make decision and/or keep a promise. These kids are my life, the air I breath. They make me complete and happy where I am no made what. I love seeing their little faces in the morning and telling me what they had dreams about. How they slept and what they want for breakfast. I mean yeah it lonely not having another adult around to talk to. But I figured a relationship or what have you will happen in its own time. I just hope they are okay with kids HA-HA! I’ll tell you this tho… If I ever do get married again, that’s it! I want someone to talk to me about the problems when they have them. Not just sit there and do nothing. Like I said in that post:

“We are just on to different levels and have different ideas for what we want out of life.”